Murray branch of the family in California. Gilbert (Scotty) Murray is my great grandfather’s brother, my great grand uncle.
My grandfather Gordon’s twin brother Douglas was killed in WWII, devastated him, he never got over it, wore his dog tag for the rest of his life.
It’s possible my grandfather’s brother Thomas is my biological grandfather as there is some rumour that he coerced my grandmother when she was drunk… or maybe it was consentual. I’m not sure, it’s a sensitive topic for other members of the family and they don’t want to discuss it. I DO want to discuss it so we all know what actually happened because my mother was abused as a result of all this, which subsequently landed my brother and I in foster care, which my family also does not want to discuss.
Lots of not wanting to discuss anything in my family, on both sides of my family. Before I found out the trauma (both sides of) my family experienced not just in WWI and WII but going back over many generations as soldiers, losing your brothers and fathers and family members to senseless greedy wars will warp a family after awhile. Creates dysfunction, family alienation, complete family breakdown.
I understand all this now.
But I still want to know what happened.
Knowing your family history is important.